Expert Reveals How Redefining Masculinity Can Close the Gap in Single Parent Households
HOUSTON, TX--(Marketwire - September 24, 2010) - If you know a child in a single-parent home, that child is most likely being raised by Mom.
According to the latest U.S. Census figures from November of 2009, 84 percent of the custodial parents in the 13.7 million single-parent households in the U.S. are mothers. Only 16 percent of custodial parents are dads. Many fathers blame the court systems, which they believe favors the mothers in most cases, but one expert believes that men have more control over that paradigm than they might think.
"When it comes to deciding who gets the kids, it's natural for judges to want to place them with the parent who is nurturing and sensitive," said Michael Taylor, motivational speaker, life coach, and author of 'A New Conversation With Men' (www.coachmichaeltaylor.com). "It's difficult to cast most fathers -- even the good ones -- in that light. But I don't think it's out of reach for any man to become that person, and to exude it in his daily life."
The cornerstone for this new paradigm, according to Taylor, includes developing stronger connections to the ideas of love, compassion, understanding, acceptance and forgiveness.
"These qualities are not signs of weakness," Taylor said. "They are actually signs of strength, and when men reject these aspects of themselves, it leads to all sorts of dysfunction and unhappiness. The first thing we need to do is discard all the media madness that has created the problem in the first place. We need to break the bonds of a culture that has taught us all the wrong things about what it means to be masculine, and embrace a new paradigm. We've grown up in a culture that teaches men that marriage is a prison, and that being monogamous is somehow not manly, when in fact, the successful and happy husbands and fathers out there know that to be the opposite. If we can reverse these beliefs, I believe we will begin to see a dramatic reduction of issues like high divorce rates, high school dropouts, domestic abuse and high incarceration rates."
About Coach Michael Taylor
A father of three grown children, Coach Michael Taylor is happily married and resides in Houston. He is also a self educated entrepreneur, author, personal coach and radio show host.